About Me

The husband & I August 2015 at a Dallas Cowboys game

Hello friends, sit down, grab a drink and let me tell you a little bit about myself.

My name is Sarah and I’m a 40 year old empty nester who enjoys travel, photography and vodka.  My youngest, Cam, graduated high school in June 2014, in Dec. that year my oldest, Bo, turned 21 and 2 months later I turned 40.  Talk about starting a new chapter, three big milestones that close together threw me for a loop.

I’ve been a mother and wife my entire adult life.  Yup, you guessed it; I was 18 when Bo was born.  Naturally, that means that I never really developed my own personality as an adult.  My days were filled with raising 2 boys, supporting my husband, as a wife does, and keeping the house and daily lives of those 3 in order. My whole world was centered on my little family, if they were happy and doing what they loved, I was happy.  And let me tell you people, I WAS HAPPY!!!!  I enjoyed going to the kid’s events and practices and being involved with their schools and devoting all my “spare” time to volunteering for various things in their lives and going to work functions with my husband. I was born to be a stay home mom and people pleaser.  Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t all sunshine and rainbows but we had a pretty good life and I was content.

And then they left.  Gone.  Poof.  No more kids to take care of.

Now at first, I thought this empty nest thing would be pretty fun.  It would be the first time in our marriage that it would be just my husband and I, and I was looking forward to that!  We could eat whatever we wanted, whenever we wanted with no complaints, travel whenever we wanted and be carefree and breezy sitting by a pool sipping cocktails (hopefully a lot of cocktails).  Well, that isn’t exactly how it worked out.  Somehow it’s never quite like you imagine it.  My husband isn’t retired yet and while we can travel more freely than before, we still have to plan around his work (and he works A LOT).  So my plans for traveling more weren’t going as hoped for and drinking alone at lunch or by the pool just made me feel pathetic.

With all that time I devoted to my little family of 4, I must admit, I didn’t have much time to cultivate too many friend relationships.  This was a big mistake on my part.  You would think I would have other mother’s and empty nesters to hang out with, I sure thought that.  Once again, not what I imagined.  Being only 40 sets me apart from other empty nesters.  Most people my age still have young children and can’t just take off and travel or go have a drink during the week.  That makes having friends my own age a challenge.  No one in their early 40’s, that I know of, really identifies with my empty nester status so finding a “friend group” has been a little harder than expected.

All of a sudden I found myself alone in our house with nowhere I had to be and no one that I had to take care of, and only two really close friends to hang with.  I was lost. Taking care of others and rushing around was all I had known for over 20 years and I missed it terribly.  I realized that I didn’t have interests of my own or hobbies except photography (which I only dabbled in), remodeling our homes (we split our time between Texas and Key West, Florida)  and learning to mix various types of adult beverages.  It was time to get out into the world and find what I loved doing, besides being a wife/mom.

I started this blog to chronicle my journey to finding myself and friends to share my journey with.  I love to travel, meet new people and try new things.  Everyday isn’t easy, but I’m going to get out there and shake it up!  So watch out world, there is a 40 year old empty nester on the loose!  Now, let’s all do a shot of vodka (or two) and get ready for fun and adventure.

Our little family of 4

Our little family of 4